The Marriage Question
My husband and I want to renew our vows next year. We switched from the Roman Rite(Western) to the Romanian Rite (Eastern) last year. At the time of our wedding, neither of us felt completely engaged in our vows, as we were too nervous and felt a little on display. Now that we have a better idea what the vows are for, and to be able to participate in the beautiful Eastern Rite wedding ceremony, we are going to renew on our 14th anniversary. Here is a question for you all. When you got married, did you have an appreciation for the truly covenental bond that you were undertaking, and a trust in the unbreakable union you were entering? A conversation over at Caelum et Terra about annulments has unnerved me a bit regarding the indissolvability of Catholic marriage. (There are 97 commets at this time, so if you want to read it all, allow some time). This has led to the question (regarding the high numbers of annulments) too many anullments, or too many invalid marriages? Does anyone really understand the gravity of their vows, have an appreciation for the life of service one has undertaken, or are most looking for their own happiness? Not a couple I know hasn't struggled with their marriage. At what point do you investigate annulment? And why did people in previous generations stick out unhappy marriages, rather than use the possibility of an annulment when things seemed unbearable?
I am working on a response to these questions, incorporating many of my own life experiences. I will post my response tomorrow, detailing my initial faith formation (SSPX), my marriage ("regular church"), our church hopping (indult masses, SSPX again, various independent chaples, and local churches, and finally, our current Romanian Catholic church), and my recent studies of Eastern Chrisianity and Theology of the Body. I feel a convergence of many things slamming into my soul at this time, and that there is a common thread - one of headship, authentic authority as a servant, and the place of the intellectual vs. the spiritual life (i.e. head vs. soul). Stay tuned, as this will more than likely take many installments.
But first, back to my question - too many annulments, or too many invalid marriages? and can anyone know at the time of their marriage if it is annulment proof?